I can’t take it any longer. My hair: it’s trying to kill me.
Most of my life I’ve had long – LONG – hair, with intermittent bouts of shorter cuts. Right now, I’m coming out of a short-hair spell of about two and a half years because I 
kept seeing beautiful women with long hair who made me believe I could once again pull it off.
So here are my pros and cons for long hair:
- It looks pretty
- Makes me feel like I haven’t 100% surrendered to the ‘mom look’
- Doesn’t require a cut as often – saves $$
- Jake likes to play with it
- Takes forever to dry
- Gives Seabass something to cling to, i.e. leads to bald spots
- Too heavy to keep out of my face with an elastic
- Potentially dowdy, flat, and Amish-esque
- Suffocates me in my sleep
- Gets in the way of everything
- Jake likes to play with it, maybe a little too much
Looks like I want short hair. How about you? What works for you as a mom?
I am Jaime, wife to Jacob. We are the smitten, stupefied, sometimes scared silly parents of a precious boy nicknamed Seabass and a darling girl nicknamed Sweet Chuck.
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I went through the same thing decades ago. And my daughter always had long hair, similar to yours. She was in the same quandry (although pre-mommyhood). She finally cut it and it looked just like your other photo. It’s been up and down since, but short always wins out. It’s short now. Honestly, you look beautiful both ways. Gee, that’s the same thing I told her.
And that’s the same thing my mother will say. I love that sort of dependability.
Man I wish the fates gave me a dollar every time I guessed what your next post was going to be about before you even post it…
But it only proves what has taken me quite a few years to figure out: There really are only a finite number of problems in this world, and we all go through all of them at some point.
Cut it, but not too short. You’ve lost enough of your identity lately without wondering who the stranger with short hair in the mirror is.
Megan – I could work this to my advantage, you know. What will my next problem be? TELL ME!!!
what’s the fun in that?? 😉
worst thing I ever did was cut my hair short-short after my kids…and I did it anyway, every. time.
I had days (ok, most days) where I wanted to cut off all my hair after having a baby, but I stuck it out and am so glad I still have my long hair. Eventually, babies stop thinking hair is pull/chew toy and leave it alone (sooner than you think, mine is 16 months and hasn’t played with it in a long time). Looking at the photo on the top right of your page, it looks like you have side bangs/fringe (whatever it’s called these days, which looks really nice. You should do that with whatever you decide 🙂
Honestly, either hair cut looks fabulous on you. Not many people can pull off both short and long hair. I do love the shorter cut – you look very sophisticated. I don’t think that the shorter do looks like a “mom-cut” , quite the opposite.
I like the shorter cut! You look great in both, but I agree with BA. The short seems more sophisticated.
ok. Not a mom, but major advocate for the shorties. Here is a thought for you: When you have long hair what do you do with it? If you said, I put it up. Then you need to cut it.
But you do short hair so well! You’ll never have the ‘mom look’.
But yeah, I’ve been close to shaving my head since I got pregnant (no, not really, but close). I have it pulled back daily because (a) Monkey pulls on it all the time (b) it’s in my way when I’m trying to do important things like cleaning doodie without getting it on everything and (c) I’m too busy to wash it frequently enough that it doesn’t look kinda greasy by day five.
I know you didn’t ask, but, you pull of short like nobody’s business! It’s that great neck of yours. 🙂 My stylist tells me she aims for short but not “soccer mom” for me. I thank her.
Whatever you do, it will grow back.